Using December
It happens every year. The clocks fall back and the sun escapes early, as if it’s me at a social function. I know darker days might feel like a bummer, but it’s not like we’ve been blindsided by them. They arrive every year, and as such, I’ve chosen to lean WAY INTO the dark.
I have many favorite December activities, but my most fave is to reflect on my year and prepare for the year ahead. December was built for this! The cozy, dark nights and equally dim mornings lend themselves to staying inside and doing this quiet work.
“Why though? Why must you keep bossing me around about all this reflection nonsense?”
Because it works. I got extremely excited when I read “Atomic Habits,” and James Clear explained how review and reflection are critical steps for making sustainable change. The regular process of fine-tuning your approach is what helps you evolve and create the outcomes you want to see in your life. He completely validated my experience.
This isn’t about living in the past.
It’s about approaching your life like a scientist. Getting curious about which experiments worked and which didn’t. Noticing your results and deciding whether to replicate the experiment or abandon it. It’s Self-Awareness 101.
This year I’ve learned a huge lesson: the importance of routinely stopping to review my wins and setbacks. Taking time each month to review has allowed me to make exponential progress. Plus, it helps me investigate what’s getting in my way and recommit to the things I say I want (or ditch the things that aren’t as important as I once thought.)
Maybe you’re someone who already reflects on a regular basis. Maybe this feels intimidating, or you’d rather not face your stuff. The point is this: if you aren’t happy, you’re the one who gets to change it. The first step is to review what’s working and what’s not. December is ready for you!
Ok, I’m ready to reflect. How do I start?
Choose a time and space where you can enjoy uninterrupted focus, even for 10-15 minutes. (maybe it’s on a walk or in the shower)
Decide how you want to capture your thoughts - journal, bulleted list, phone note, voice memo, drawing
Think back on your year and walk through each month in your mind
Ask yourself the following questions
What were my top five favorite moments this year?
In what way(s) did I grow the most? What makes me proud?
How was I challenged this year? What did I learn?
What do I need to let go of? What’s not working for me anymore?
What do I want to experience more of in the next year?
If it feels right, share your thoughts with someone. Where might you need accountability? How can they help?
